wrongful romanticizing (a draft)
Past is a place that is unattainable. It’s a realm of all of our memories that we are not able to relive. So, why do we, as humans, tend to romanticize past relationships? Why do we make our present fulfillments seem worse than they actually are? It seems like this is simply the way we function but why is that so? And more importantly, is there a way to overcome it? It is a well-known post-break-up technique to remind oneself of all the bad qualities of that past partner or of the bad times in the relationships and the reasons why it didn’t work. The idea behind this lies within our survival mechanism (and thus, tendency to remember good times). As we all know, not all of our memories are rainbows and butterflies but many times, our brain will trick us into remembering the good memories, instead of the bad ones. This can be explained by our natural mechanism of survival, which makes us erase the harmful memories. Taking this information into account, it seems logical that we would only